I’m sure we’ve all had the embarrassing moments when your dress was caught in your underwear while walking down the hall in junior high (yes, true story). Or maybe you started smoking in grade 9 because all your ‘friends’ hung out at the park and if you wanted to smoke at school you had to be 2 blocks away and that is where the park was (another true story). I swear to this day, I never felt peer pressure (maybe not, and it sure as hell was trying to hang with the kids I wanted to be friends with). Or maybe you are concerned you’re way too liberal for your in-laws (another true story). Perhaps you added your ex-boyfriend to Facebook so he could see how awesome your life is without him (yup, true again). Or you post only the glamour shots of yourself on social media because god forbid anyone saw your massive whitehead on your chin the other day (not true for me personally, if you follow me on instagram I have been found numerous times with bedhead and no makeup on insta stories) and on and on…. What is this? This is caring what other people think about you and it’s utterly damaging to the most important relationship that you have in the entire world – the one you have with yourself!!!!
The truth is that what other people think of you is none of your business. And what you think of them is none of their business either. We are all entitled to our own opinions. And what matters most is what you think of yourself, period. This is what self-esteem is. This is what confidence is. It’s owning YOUR truth. Not the truth that the beauty magazines tell you, you should own. Not what your best friend of 30 years thinks your truth should be. YOUR TRUTH, the one that is inside of you that you are informed by everyday based on how you feel.
See we live in a society that tells everybody what to think, what to wear, how to act, what is acceptable, what is unacceptable. We live in a world filled with media telling us what to eat, how to dress, how to raise our kids, how not to raise our kids. Likely your parents, siblings and close friends all have an opinion on what you should share, what you should keep to yourself, how you should view something or someone, whether you should attend church or go to the gym.
At the end of the day, the only thing that is going to bring you true joy and utter fulfillment is when you honour what’s inside. Trouble is some people don’t even know how to listen to this powerful voice anymore because they have been so busy buying in to what other people think of them that these are the only voices they hear.
So I encourage you listen, to slow down and find that voice inside again. Do the crazy thing, be the wild child and honour that unique truth that is your gift to the world. You are enough, you are! You are enough just the way you are, with your faults, your flaws, your quirky likes and dislikes – you are enough. And when you own that, when you let the world see all of this funkiness, you will feel so liberated and so loved. Because you will be doing the one thing that no one else can do and that is honour your God-given truth! That is authenticity! That is admirable! That is inspiring! Go against the grain, speak up and step out! I got your back! And at the end of the day, what I think about you doesn’t matter either. This my friends is the true gift, the gift of truth inside of you is the true law of integrity – own your truth!